How to Accept Your Flaws

 Hello Y'all,
Self-Love is nothing new and now these days it's everywhere. This guy once told me I was conceded recently and to be honest I was offended and I don't get offended easily. If you get to know me in person or if you know me you know i'm not conceded at all. I love myself  yes and yes I take selfies but not conceded. It's called confidence. Our life is too short to not love ourselves after all we only have this one body.

So if you're wondering wait I thought this was a how to accept your flaws and yes yes I will get to it. We are human and we aren't perfect and we have thoughts that like to remind us about our flaws.
I want to say before I start saying my flaws that I do love myself and I'm not saying my flaws to put myself down or anything negative but to tell you I ain't perfect and also I'm my worst and best critic lol. I don't try to take things to seriously. Yes I take selfies, yes I love myself but that doesn't make me conceded and I don't have to prove to anyone when I look good and I don't go around looking for attention. Girls or Guys when you look good #onfleek own that shit!

As Beyonce says #flawless and this doens't mean that we are perfect but to own yourself and just because we are woman doesn't mean we can't be great. YOU ARE GREAT! I'm imperfectly perfect and I'm good with that. So now to how to accept your flaws. Once you accept your flaws you can shut up those thoughts in your head telling you all the times and start seeing the great things about yourself.
You don't have to like your flaws (this is when you say wait whatttttt) ya this is how to accept your flaws I never said like it. Accept that it's there and move on or like me make changes if you feel it's not you. There will always be flaws but learning to accept it empowers you in a way that noone can. You become aware that it's silly to sink in the tub crying having a pity party and just dwelling on why you're single, carless, finacially unstable blah blah (yes this happened to me a couple months ago don't judge) reminder it's good to cry things out though just don't let it become "a cry me a river, I hate life/the world thing." I actually pulled myself together and after life got to much better and I remembered I'm AMANDA BERNADETTE i'm a #girlboss etc


I looked at myself in the mirror and really observed myself and looked at my flaws then told myself ok you're not perfect and laughed and shrugged it off and said it is what it is I can improve somethings and whatever I can't accept it and move on. Once I did that the things that weren't my flaws stood out more and made my flaws less noticeable. I hope this helps you Be Confident in your own skin. I know it's easier said than done but girl you got this....did you know the chances of you being here is one in 400 trillion. So however you feel, whereever you are in life or things you don't like about yourself just know you're one of a kind beauty.




Physical: Love Handles and excess fat around my arms and stomach, side gaps in teeth, double chin,  nose looks weird profile on one side, under eye bags/ dark circles.....
- I know these days it's shown to love your curves and I do love my curves (aka latina booty and boobs small waist) but the fat around my stomach and arms is not healthy. Yes, I love my pasta and my sweets and I wont stop eating those but i'm willing to for a while to get in shape. I don't hate myself for it I know what I was doing when I ate those things but I'm happy to say I'm going to get in shape for my health not just for show well maybe for a little but only for me and then maybe my future man lol but that doesnt mean I'm getting in shape just for that but for me.

- As far as my gaps in my teeth, it's not the end of the world I will be fixing those with invisiline braces but I do love my smile it's pretty good for not ever having braces.
- double chin you probably are like really girl well I have a little like frog fat lmao under my chin and wish my jawline was sharper lol but again I can lose that and I'm on a mission.

- As far as my nose I'm not going to get surgery only because i'd rather one use that money to travel or something else and second God gave me this nose and I will live with it no big deal. I've heard it all so fuck it people can talk. I won't change it because some people don't like it... I like my nose ya on one side it looks weird but frontal and on my good side it's cute lol. Also if you want to get surgery do you boo it's just not for me.

STEP 1: PUT EMPOWERING MUSIC...MUSIC THAT MAKES YOU HAPPY AND #FLAWLESS 
STEP 2: FOR THE PHYSICAL PART GET A JOURNAL/PEN AND THENGET NAKED AND IN FRONT OF A MIRROR WHERE YOU CAN SEE YOUR WHOLE BODY LESS THAN 5 MINS LITERALLY 3 MINS POINT OUT YOUR FLAWS. THEN AFTER POINTING THEM OUT,WRITE OUT ONES THAT YOU CAN IMPROVE ON EXAMPLE FOR ME IT'S MY ROLLS AND I WRITE LOSE BELLY FAT BY WORKING OUT AND EATING LESS SUGARS OR MORE HEALTHY MEALS. ONLY WRITE DOWN ONES YOU CAN IMPROVE IN A HEALTHY WAY.
STEP 3: YOUR FLAWS THAT YOU CAN'T CHANGE FOR EXAMPLE FOR ME MY NOSE BECAUSE I DON'T WANT PLASTIC SURGURY I GIVE IT A GOOD LOOK AND FIND SOMETHING OK WITH IT AND SAY SOMETHING POSITIVE ABOUT IT...I'M GLAD I HAVE A NOSE TO SMELL AND BREATHE FOR EXAMPLE.
STEP 4: ONCE YOU HAVE WROTE YOUR NOTES AND SAY A POSITIVE THING ABOUT YOUR FLAWS LISTEN TO THAT EMPOWERING SONG AND LOOK AT YOURSELF AND REALLY LOOK AT YOURSELF AND SAY I'M ONE.... I'M ONE WOMAN/MAN. THINGS WILL GET BETTER AND FOR THOSE THINGS THAT I CAN'T CHANGE JUST SAY IT IS WHAT IT IS.
STEP 5: POINT OUT ALL THE GREAT THINGS ABOUT YOURSELF AND TAKE YOUR TIME TO WRITE IN BOLD ALL THE GREAT THINGS YOU LOVE ABOUT YOURSELF PHYSICALLY AND MENTUALLY. OH ALSO YOU CAN GET CHANGED LOL OR IF YOU DON'T DO YOUR THING LOL
AND REALLY TAKE YOUR TIME (THIS DOESN'T MAKE YOU CONCEDED) BUT THIS HELPS FOR THE THINGS YOU LOVE ABOUT YOURSELF TO SHINE SO BRIGHT THAT YOUR FLAWS LOSS THAT POWER THAT YOUR FLAWS ARE THE BOSS BECAUSE HONEY THEY AREN'T. 
STEP 1: FOR THE MENTAL PART AND NON-PHYSICAL FLAWS WRITE DOWN HOW YOU CAN IMPROVE THEM OR AT LEAST CONTROL THEM. DON'T LET YOUR THOUGHTS CONTROL YOU BECAUSE YOUR MORE THAN THOSE THOUGHTS.


DRESS IN SOMETHING THAT YOU LOVE! AND SAY I WILL ACCEPT MY FLAWS BECAUSE I'M BETTER THAN MY FLAWS!
IF YOU HAVE TO DO THIS A COUPLE TIMES DO IT! I HONESTLY DO IT A COUPLE TIMES TO REMIND MYSELF AND FOR MY FLAWS TO LOSS POWER AND TO MOTIVIATE ME.
ALSO I KNOW IT'S HARD TO REALLY LOOK AT YOURSELF IN FRONT OF THE MIRROR NAKED TRUST ME IT WAS VERY HARD FOR ME TRULY. ONCE I DID THESE THINGS I WOULD LOOK AT MYSELF AND SMILE AND SAY I WAS GIVING POWER TO THIS (LOL) PSHHH THIS AINT NOTHING,NOW I DIDN'T LIKE THEM BUT I LAUGHED ABOUT IT. I ALSO REMINDED MYSELF THAT IF I WERE TO DIE I WOULD WANT PEOPLE TO REMEMBER ME FOR NOT MY FLAWS BUT FOR THE GREAT THINGS.
YOUT THOUGHTS HAVE A WAY OF TRICKING YOU OF THAT PEOPLE ONLY SEE YOUR FLAWS HEY IT'S NOT TRUE.



SO I'M GOING TO LEAVE WITH YOU THIS...DON'T LET YOUR FLAWS (NEGATIVITY) DRAG YOU DOWN OR MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE YOU ARE LESS THAN ANYONE.. YOU ARE NOT LESS THAN NO ONE AND DON'T POINT OUT SOMEONE ELSES FLAWS EITHER.

FROM MY HEART TO YOURS
WISHING YOU LOTS OF
LOVE & SWEETNESS




 Non- Physical: Overthinker, planner, over protective/worrier, speaking my mind
- I have a huge imagination and aka i'm a dreamer so hence an overthinker but hey walt disney had a dream and look how it turned out for him and so many other people. I'm happy to tell you that I've been working on it more and being a do-er( JUST DO IT). I love adventure so I make it an adventure and if it's something that worries me then I ask myself girl live in the now and it's helped me so much.
-Planner....Omgosh I use to plan so much and would get frustrated when things didn't go how I planned it but for a few years it's changed so much. I've learned that yes plan a little but let things flow and honestly the best things that have happened to me I didn't plan or just planned a little. It feels good to not worry so much. Just enjoy the process and accept the outcome.
-over-protective... yes you might think but this is good and yes to a huge point be prepared but sometimes this worries me a lot which isn't good. Now I don't get so over protective that I don't do anything but there's some things that I wish I could but I'm over-protective. I will always be over-protective just because I want to live my life to the fullest and protect myself. I love so much that my over protective comes in gear but I will always love so much. Love is my foundation and that won't ever change.
- speaking my mind. I'm an honest person and I used to keep everything to myself just because I don't like drama and to this day I still don't like drama and i've learned its good to be honest, and not keep everything to myself. It all builds up(which isn't good) but also there is times to speak and other times to not speak. Now I speak the truth in a way to defend myself the latina part of me lol but also not everyone needs to know my business but if I speak my mind i'm defending something or someone I care for.






Be Yourself
I know I probably got more flaws but Right now my mind is like blank mode lol......I've accepted my flaws they are part of me. If I lose the belly fat and years later I gain it I know that at least I did it before and can do it again and if i can't I'm not going to put myself down for it.
iIve accepted my flaws because it empowers me. It makes me feel more real and makes me love myself more and accept God created me like this. Once I pointed and accepted my flaws I gave them less power to bring me down and not appreciate the parts of me that I love. So Here is to the best parts of me. Always be yourself... Be good to yourself, no matter what anyone says. I know my value and in the most selfless way as I could and I know it doesn't sound like it is but I'm priceless too vaulable lol. OWN IT! YOU ARE WORTHY! NOT ONE IN A MILLION ONE OF A KIND! So below are the best things about me



Dorky








I Love Food/Desserts


Fashionista
 





Homebody Panda/Adventure Horse/BOSSLADY




Romantic/ Sexy


I Love My Curves, Eyes, Brows, Lips, Being Short, Smile, and that I'm Latina and so much more!








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