What to do after a breakup



Hello y'all so I recently got asked by my friend about what to do after a breakup. 
Break Ups suck no matter what but it's not all bad. You might think that the world is ending.... first calm down it's not ending second I will share what I did after a breakup and how I'm living my life to the fullest and to add I know this is about after a relationship but can I just say I'm ready to mingle not hurry because I leave it in God's hands but ahhh I have such a great feeling I'm going to meet my best friend and the love of my life soon! If I don't no worries hehehe but if I do that would be soooooooo amazing!
ok sorry you're probably sad but I want to share this with you to show you how to pull yourself together and live your life. That can be you just wanting to live it up single for a while or just get back in the dating world.
My last relationship was last year to be exact beginning of summer. I was getting over the relationship a month before. Actually for a while but it was so hard to leave; so by the time I ended the relationship it took me less than a week to get over him and the relationship but hey I wasn't like guys here I come.... it was more like I'm going to live for me and do things I've always wanted to do. I just wanted to say ya it might have been short and it sounds bad like pshhh over him NEXT...but that wasn't the case and you might think oh girls who break up and say they are over that person in a short amount of time is a liar well to be honest everyone is different and I went through a lot in that relationship and like I said I was over it for a while but to be honest I was holding myself back and I wasn't being true to me. It hurt to leave because you spend so much time and effort but after I felt so much peace and so much joy. 
Do I regret it no! I don't regret anything in my life because I learn from my mistakes and I wouldn't be the person I am today and hey I wouldn't be able to write this post but to add i'm not getting back with him not that he was a horrible person even after the shit I went through but I don't wish him a crap life after because I believe everyone deserves a happy life so I did wish him well but will he get the best cough cough me again no but let's move on hahahaha. (i'm not being cocky i'm not full of myself either even if people think but people can think what they want and the people who know me know that i'm not cocky... I know me and that's what matters.

Don't beat yourself down. I saw this saying a few years ago and it stuck with me...... An "ex" is called an "ex" because it's an EXample of what you shouldn't have again in the future.

A EX should stay an EX they're the example of false love and an explanation for why you deserve better.

I personally don't believe in getting back with your ex because I've gone through it and you ended for a reason but hey some people break up and end up getting back together years later but like I said everyone is different.
I believe in both partners should work together in a relationship in bad and good and are honest and faithful to each other and so much more. Also just know your no one's property so don't let anyone lock you down. 

Let me tell though you the moment I became single everybody and their mamas was trying to marry me I'm like dang hold up, can a girl just live. I'm mentioning that because the right person will come at the right time. So don't stress it but even if i'm  romantic AF and believe in true love hehehe don't judge. I was enjoying myself because Lord knows I hadn't taken time for myself but also don't get mad when people try to hook you up.



SO now finally to the things I did after a breakup

CRY IT ALL OUT
If you have to put sad music or a movie do it let your sadness or anger out but in a healthy way don't be thinking you're going to be forever lonely JUST STOP your not going to be a lonely crazy person. Do this alone then if you need a friend then ok but ya let it out.

DONATE/SELL OR TRASH THE GIFTS.
I know it might be hard emotionally but at the end of the day, it's things/materials. Some things you might think but he/she put so much effort but by keeping those things it will remind you of that person and don't hurt yourself like that.


LISTEN TO YOUR FAVORITE MUSIC
You might have songs that you both loved and after a breakup you're probably like but we loved that song and when I listen to it I get sad....well listen to your favorite songs that YOU loved before you met that person and sing it loud!

WRITE OUT YOUR FEELINGS THEN THROW IT AWAY.
I love writing, it gives me another perspective. It shows me how I'm feeling and how to better myself if I'm down. Most of the time I throw it away because I don't want to read it again and remind myself of the breakup but if I learned a good lesson and write it I keep it and remind myself why it didn't work out. It's also a quick way to let it out and express how your feeling if your friend isn't available in that moment.

PROMISE YOURSELF
This is very important I have seen a lot of women put their everything for someone and after they feel lost or empty. My last relationship I almost did that but Thank God I didn't. I'm that person that puts my all into everything. I'm loyal AF and I put my heart into everything. There is a difference in putting your heart for this person because you love them and they respect you but there is also and the not healthy way of just catering to this person with you not respecting yourself....always respect yourself and if your partner doesn't see that well then tell him BOY BYE! Be true to you! So make a promise to yourself we can get caught up when we like someone but don't put your standards down even if they are high. I promised myself to stay true to myself and I also have this saying I say to myself time to time.
to be so strong that nothing can disturb my peace of mind. to talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person I meet. to make all my family/friends feel that there is something worthwhile in them. to look at the sunny side of everything and make my optimism come true. to think only of the best, to work only for the best and to expect only the best. to be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as I am about my own. to forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future. to wear a cheerful expression at all times and give a smile to every living creature I meet. to give so much time to improving myself that I have no time to criticize others. to be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble. to think well of myself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud words, but in great deeds. to live in the faith that the whole world is on my side. so long as I am true to the best that is in me.


WRITE A TO-DO LIST OF THINGS YOU WANT TO ACHIEVE(GOALS) & START ASAP!
This helped me a lot because it reminded me that I'm important too and it kept me going to see that life still goes on and I met new people and saw new things and that helped me create new memories for myself and it also helped to say I'm going to enjoy this moment and being single. Don't think about it too much write your goals and start. That's what I did and I started with this blog #1 on my list and I'm so happy I didn't think it too much because I love my blog and it's opened my eyes to many things that make my heart, body and soul so happy.

TRAVEL
omgosh I love to travel!!!!!!! You don't have to go very far but traveling is so great for the soul and heart because you see new people and new things and it helps you move on. Traveling always shows me that Life goes on and all the beauty and it makes the heartbreak so little compared to the locations I see. That even maybe when you thought you were going to marry this person or how you loved that person traveling has a way of showing you the wonders of the world and how we all deserve better and that with so much going on in the world there is always better. Hopefully that made sense I'm getting deep here hahaha and I ain't sorry.

DON'T HOOK UP WITH SOMEONE
Sex or just making out it doesn't matter. Thinking oh well Let me get it out of my system so I can forget that person. Honey that doesn't work. Don't involve someone in your breakup(rebound) I personally haven't done this because why would I get it on with someone else "to forget" that person because honey you won't forget that person they will always be in your thoughts sorry sucks I know but let's be positive. I feel like you're using that person you hook up with and I don't ever want to make someone feel used. Guys be careful on this one I know you LOVE sex but don't hook up with a girl because then she can like you and us ladies are emotional so she can get attached and if you don't like her then don't mess with her emotions and time.... and ladies this goes out to you too because ya he might cuddle with you at first but if he only wanted to hit it and quit it and doesn't call you now you have to get over this guy and your ex and that's a lot girl... just don't. If you want to pleasure yourself then buy a sex toy sometimes sucks but hey at least you won't have to be getting over two guys.

HAVE A GIRLS/GUY NIGHT OUT
Not like in the movies where that friend is trying to get you laid or get you back in the game but go and have fun just being with your friends and JUST LIVE. Dance for you or get a drink for you etc. Enjoy yourself being with your besties.



+ WHEN YOU SEE COUPLES ALWAYS HAVE THIS THOUGHT...GOOD FOR THEM I WISH THEM MORE LOVE. DON'T GET SAD I KNOW IT SEEMS HARD BUT HEY THINKING HAPPY THOUGHTS HELPS SOOO MUCH!!!! ALSO WHEN YOU GO TO PLACES OR SEE THINGS YOU DID WITH YOUR EX DON'T BE SAD OR MAD JUST THINK OK IN THE PAST I STILL LOVE THIS PLACE ENJOY IT.


I HOPE THIS HELPS YOU AND DON'T STRESS LIVE YOUR LIVE AND BE TRUE TO YOU! I LOVE YOU! 

From my Heart to Yours WISHING YOU LOTS OF Love & Sweetness
AMANDA BERNADETTE




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